One of the books I’m reading now is Brené Brown’s “The Gifts of Imperfections.” Pretty much all of my life, I was expected to do really well at almost everything (and I say almost because even though I’m 5’9, I’m so not an athlete). And being the oldest meant I was supposed to be a good example to my sister, which is not necessarily a bad thing. However, I put a lot of pressure on myself — even at a young age — to be dang near perfect. I always wanted to be a straight A student (when I was in elementary school, I’d get upset when I received a B); I wanted to be the best when I was in band; I loved when my teachers talked about how good and smart I was, and I enjoyed being praised and noticed for my accomplishments. I pretty much carried this perfectionism mentality until, well, now. I’ve always known I’m a (recovering) perfectionist, but I never really understood why, not until I started reading Brown’s book.
I believe that since I now know where my perfectionist tendencies come from, I can let them go. I realize that I can still be an inspiration to others by allowing them to see my mistakes and failures and ultimate successes. They will see that yes, you might fall down, but you can get back up and move ahead. And besides, why should I waste my time, worrying about trying to appear perfect because, hello!, I can’t be perfect. So, what’s the point of me trying to appear that way?
“Perfectionism is more about perception…there is no way to control perception.” – Brenè Brown
I can’t control what other people think of me. So, instead of trying to be Little Ms. Perfect, I will work on putting my authentic self — flaws and all — out there. And I will strive for excellence instead of perfection.
Are you, too, a recovering perfectionist? How are you letting go of your perfectionist tendencies?
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